It’s a bitch.
Jack Kornfield once gave a talk in which he described his (and my) experience of it in which he said that it just isn’t particularly responsive remediation. It’s more like a fundamental fact than a response to a particular given social context or a specific social lack.
I feel this, acutely. I’ve developed all sorts of strategies for combating my loneliness, and while many of them produce salutary effects, none actually removes my underlying, chronic, irremediable loneliness.
My loneliness doesn’t translate as “I lack companionship,” but rather, “I have an insatiable, unquenchable thirst for a form of connection that my infancy and childhood left me, somehow, unable to receive.”