Yesterday, I posted on how unavailability is sexy, and desperation isn’t.
Once in a while, I write a post that fails, completely, to communicate what I mean.
This post was one of those.
I seem to have struck a nerve, having gotten a slew of comments – some on the blog, and some via e-mail – telling me just how wrong I got it. And what’s funny is, I don’t disagree with any of those comments. Which means I didn’t exactly get it wrong, so much as say it (entirely) wrong.
I don’t think anyone thinks that unavailability or indifference is sexy. No one wants to be left twisting in the wind, uncertain about whether a suitor is a suitor, whether s/he wants you. We all crave knowledge. We want to be communicated with honestly, openly. And we want to be desired. We don’t want our partners to be indifferent (or worse) to us.
What I meant wasn’t intended to contradict any of that.
I was speaking – as I sometimes do – on a more subconscious level. And as I (often) do, I got it wrong, I think. I failed to communicate what I meant. I’ll try again in coming days, after a few conversations to refine just what it is that I’m saying.
Meantime, thanks so much for keeping me honest.