Just for fun, here are some adjectives to describe T:
You can never know T. Even among those who meet her, she is somewhat enigmatic, often coming off as a bit aloof or cold, initially (where I typically come off as affable, likeable, voluble). Her first impressions are a function of her delicacy, her reticence. Those who stick around, who get to know her, learn – slowly – that her delicacy is the flip side of a remarkably strong interior, that her reticence once pierced yields to a truly exquisite openness and vulnerability.
I’m sorry you can’t know her, and unspeakably grateful I do.